How To Ruin Your Life

How To Ruin Your Life

Jun 12

You may be thinking why the heck would I want to know how to ruin my life?

Well, sometimes knowing what can jack your life up helps clarify what you need to do to make it awesome.

Turns out there are lots of different ways to ruin your life.

Who knew?

Option 1 – Stay In One Place

Get stuck
Stay in one place your whole life.
Always order vanilla even though the menu is four pages long.
Become the type of person who sends back lattes.
Save up your money for a plasma TV instead of a plane ticket.
Talk a lot about things you know nothing about.
Have an affair with someone you don’t even find attractive.

Option 2 – Stay In The Past

Refuse to forget your ex.
Make it impossible for yourself to do anything without remembering that you used to do it with them.
Hug your knees under the sheets and think about how safe you felt when they held you at night.
Remind yourself daily of how empty you feel.
Find new ways to make yourself sad.

Option 3 – Stay In Denial

Get drunk all the time.
Consider no Saturday night, national holiday or extended happy hour complete without a vodka-induced breakdown.
Graduate college but keep drinking like you’re still in it.
Notice that cheap beer tastes watery and stale when you drink it alone but drink it anyway.
Look at old Facebook photos wasted and wonder where everyone went.

Option 4 – Stay Rigid

Never drink.
Never do anything that could potentially be “bad” for you.
Treat your body like the temple it is and say no to carbs, yes to wheatgrass, go to bed at ten sharp and turn down cake on your birthday.
Take fifteen different dietary supplements.
Monitor carefully.
Succumb to nothing.
Miss out on everything.

Option 5 – Stay Inadequate

Compare yourself constantly, to everyone else.
Allow the standards of image-obsessed, age-obsessed culture to make you feel decrepit at 25.
Scroll through skinny girls on Tumblr feeling wistful and inadequate.
Pull at the skin on your hipbones, stomach, and underarms in the mirror.
Sigh a lot.
Sigh all the time.

Option 6 – Stay Behind A Wall

Don’t fall in love with anyone or anything.
Put an impenetrable wall between yourself and other people.
Add a fire-breathing dragon and eight yards of barbed wire.
Be suspicious of everyone’s motives.
Hold grudges long after you’ve forgotten what for.

Option 7 – Stay Fickle

Fall in love with everyone and everything.
Run after the next best thing like it’s a bus you’re perpetually late for.
Throw your heart into every other stranger’s hands and be genuinely surprised to be hurt.
Refuse to learn.
Refuse to ever learn.

Curated from: tumblr.

Despite all the different ways to ruin your life, at the base of all of them is this…

We’re all guilty of falling into some of these self-destructive behaviors from time to time.

The great thing about these dips is you can use them as opportunities to be thoughtful about your choices, learn something and grow.

I’ve been known to dabble in parts of options 2, 4, 5, 6 & 7.

How about you? Which options do you gravitate towards when fear kicks into high gear?


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  1. Marian

    Could you please make one of your gorgeous flashy tutorials on how to overcome fear? Maybe based on NLP techniques? They seem to work well and it would be of great help for many people. Cheers! namaste

    • Kai Soremekun

      Ooh that’s a great idea Marian. I will put that on the to do list. Thanks for the suggestion.

  2. Stephanie

    Apparently I have had a bad case of the “throw my heart into every other strangers hands….”.

    Thing is, I think that I am keeping my radar on long enough to weed out the “not-suitable-for-me” types, but somewhere along the lines, I engage in unconscious self talk that says, ” well, Stephanie, you are not perfect either, and if you just love them thru their discourteous, disrespectful behavior, then the object of our affection will eventually see that they don’t have to act that way.”

    All of this is subconscious until some “event” happens over and over again, in a short span of time, that makes me finally see that the other person’s behavior is not an aberration, but rather reality.

    This can ruin my life and your life because eventually, they will suck you dry, make you bitter and then leave you for dead as they go on to their next victim.

    The upside and lessons to be learned, none of which are Earth shatteringly new: Always know where you own boundaries are, be your own person at all times, and do not stand for disrespectful, abusive behavior of any type.

    Great post and jumping off point for discussion!

    Have a great day y’all!

    • Kai Soremekun

      LOL! Another option for how to ruin your life.

      *Sigh* so many of us, myself included, have traveled down that road. Thanks for the great insight Stephanie.

      Half the battle is having the level of awareness you have. Sounds like you have little chance of ruining your life. :)

      • Stephanie

        Greetings and Good Afternoon Kai!

        Sorry for the multiple posts..don’t know what happened there.

        Believe you me, whatever insight I have, was forged while on some dark roads…

        THANK YOU for making this awesome forum.

        And I’ve said this before, but I have to say again, I LOVE your Super Heroine Outfit!! :-)

  3. Aurora

    2 & 6 are mine.

    • Kai Soremekun

      Yes! Six is a big one for me too.